A GOOD MAN


A good man knows his worth.

He knows the lady his heart can love.

He sees her worth and precious value.

But he needs to know she sees his worth.

He needs to know that she really wants him.

And he needs to know why she needs him.

He doesn’t promise what he cannot deliver.

He doesn’t take advantage of her emotions.

He wants to be sure they can bond together.

He also doesn’t want to be disappointed.

Neither does he want to disappoint her.

Therefore he seeks to do due diligence.

He thus treads carefully and respectfully.

We watches for both red and green flags.

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Does she see his intrinsic value, he asks?

Does he know her real value and personality?

Beyond the externals, do they connect deeply?

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He also asks himself tough questions like:

* Why do I want her in my life?

* Why should I really be in her life?

* What value are we adding to each other?

* Does she value what I am bringing?

* Do I value what she is bringing?

* Will I take her for granted?

* Will she take me for granted?

* What are her core values system?

* What are the things she values?

* Are we a good and beneficial fit?

* Can I be the man she needs and wants?

* Can she be the woman I need and want? 

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He doesn’t want to be disrespected.

He doesn’t want to be taken for granted.

He wants to be valued by the one he loves just the same way he wants to value the one he loves.

He doesn’t want to force himself on anyone or become a nuisance with no self-respect.

He respects people as he respects himself.

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It is crucial for a guy to feel needed in a relationship because it makes him feel like some sort of a hero. 

That’s a manly thing.

It highlights his role in the relationship and makes him feel secure, satisfied and significant. 

Historically, men have believed they are the protectors and providers of their loved ones.

So it's generally a healthy and positive thing for a man to want to be valued and needed especially by the woman he loves and takes as wife, as long as it's within a balanced and supportive relationship.

This does not mean that the woman will be overly dependent on him in any way.

It simply means that what he brings is what she needs, values and appreciates—and vice versa.

Men often feel valued and appreciated when they feel needed and can contribute to their partner's well-being—psychologically, intellectually, socially, economically, physically or spiritually. 

For example, a man feels needed when his partner seeks his opinion on a difficult decision, or when he's able to help her with a practical task, or when he provides her with emotional support, or when she expresses her appreciation for his support.

However, a healthy relationship requires a beautiful balance of the needs and desires of both parties. 

Both partners should feel valued and respected.

Neither of them should feel like they are solely responsible for the other's happiness or well-being. 

A strong relationship consists of mutual respect and mutual support.

A safe and nurturing space where both partners feel truly valued and needed, as both contribute positively and wholly to the relationship. 

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