TAKE THE LEAD, MAN


Young Man, 

Take the lead to invest in a woman’s life. 

Go first. Give first. Love first.

It should be little things, for starters.

Mainly gestures. Slight show of interest.

General cordiality and mutual respect.

Don’t go investing heavily into someone who may never be interested in you.

Don’t go trying to impress them with what you don’t currently have and who you are not.

Know who you are and be confident in that.

Keep it simple and authentic.

If you think she’s a potentially good-wifey type that you would like to get know better, you can take a little time to observe her closely and intelligently.

But for goodness sakes, don’t you stalk.

Don’t be a nuisance and don’t overload or bombard her with love and attention at the initial stage.

That’s a classless act. Take it easy. Go slowly.

Remember: it’s just to learn about her personality.

If you follow her on SM, you can like some of her posts but don’t overdo it—never come across as being too needy or desperate for her attention.

Flip the script.

Imagine if a lady, who you’re not interested in pursuing a relationship with, is stalking you.

That would be a little irritating or annoying. 

So don’t be a nuisance too. Just be yourself.

Take the lead to connect and engage mildly.

Follow, react with ‘like’ emojis, and keep it cool.

Just little things. You can tell if she notices.

If she is offering positive value on SM, you may compliment her WORK once or twice, as a normal thing without strings attached but then…

See if she follows your lead—after a while. 

Still with the little things. Does she reciprocate?

No suggestions (even micro) about marriage yet.

Just understanding basic personality type and behavioral traits.

As well as values system, social skills, decency, personal boundaries, knowledge, exposure, maturity, spirituality, and intelligence level.

Then over time, as you close the gap, you observe more. 

This is the time to study and scrutinize.

Learn from her actions if she is a sincere, simple, humble, kindhearted and generous person, and if she is equally interested in your growth and wellbeing. 

Give her a little time to process it.

Don’t rush or pressure her.

Don’t also let her subtly manipulate or use your love and support solely for her selfish benefit.

Again, this is the time to study and scrutinize.

Open your eyes—extra wide—before marriage. 

Shut them afterwards—and enjoy your choice!

Your move next! 🫵

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