Heart of the Wise

I agree with the saying:  “Help poor people but don’t befriend them”.  There are people you must love from a distance. E get why.  They envy you. They can wreck you. They will stain your white. They will covet what you have. They will seek to usurp your position. They take from you but won’t support you. They can reduce you to nothing—their level. As the adage goes:  “If you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.” This proverb simply means that associating with undesirable or problematic people can lead to negative consequences, even if you don't intend to be negatively affected.  Inotherwords, the company you keep can influence your character and potentially lead you astray. I’ve said it here before.  “Help poor people but don’t befriend them”.  Just as you relate with all sorts of people but you won’t make them close friends and trusted allies. It’s called contact without contamination. But I clarified that poverty is not just absence of wealth b...

Be careful of all these online meetings that hold at night—when you’re tired and in your sleepy state. That is when your brain wave is at its lowest frequency.  It is somewhere between the theta and the delta state or brain wave band, where you are transiting from consciousness into unconsciousness. They take advantage of this state of your mind. Your body is in a state of complete relaxation and your mind is not very active at that time. Why do they do this? They’re trying to program your subconscious mind. In other words, you’re being subtly hypnotized. Especially when they’re trying to share a new idea or a confusing concept, or trying to selling you a less-than-great business deal, product or service. Also, more especially when they ask or suggest that you ‘make a decision’ almost immediately. Perhaps offering a supposedly ‘great or fantastic deal’ which you need to grab or ‘take advantage’ of ‘before midnight’ or some other specified crazy deadline or you will definitely ‘miss...

Connections are essential to life and success. Check out the two words in our theme. Support and supplant. Just a quick definition of the word supplant. To supplant simply means to take the place of, to displace, to replace, or to undermine. Now, let’s dwell on the concept of support. To support is to be actively interested in and concerned for the success of a person or thing, for example: supporting a particular sports team. It also means to provide assistance to, or give approval, comfort, or encouragement to.  It is a product or function of our goodwill and our belief in someone or something.  Many of us support different football/soccer teams which we gladly and passionately refer to as “our teams”. Observe the enthusiasm, excitement and in some cases excessive zeal or fanaticism with which we promote, defend and celebrate people who do we not personally know, or an enterprise from which we may not even earn a single penny or cent (except for those who are into sports bet...

If a good and gracious woman truly loves you and she has God’s Spirit and God’s Love in her, she will play an amazing role in your life and your mission. If a noble and goodhearted woman loves you, she will go to lengths to support you wholeheartedly. Several women invested their time, energy and material or physical resources in the life of Jesus while he was physically here on Earth as a man. It is recorded in the Scripture that certain amazing women actively supported Jesus' ministry, both financially and emotionally, by following him and providing for his needs from their own resources. Below is a list of women who played a significant role in the life and mission of the Lord himself. 1. Mary Magdalene: She was a prominent figure, who was healed by Jesus of seven demons, and among the women who followed and supported him. A very devoted follower, she was present at Jesus' crucifixion and burial, and was the first witness to his resurrection.  2. Joanna: She was the wife of ...

  When a man is in love,  a big mumu is born. A new mumu is born Or so they say… Some run from the one they love so that they don’t become fools again. Fools again… Used again.  Hurt again. Disrespected again. Abandoned again. Unappreciated again. Again?  Once bitten, two times a warrior. Warrior, made not born. Forged in the crucible. Crucible. Ah, crucible! You know that you’re being used. You know that this is not so good. You know they’re not doing right by you. But you let it slide… You don’t want to destroy the one who you once loved. You let them walk Unharmed, unchallenged  You end the war They take the spoils You take the lessons  Never again You run from love Fallen man is no angel  To love the wicked Is to expose yourself  To embrace the bloody Is to be colored in crimson  Warriors or soldiers, yes! But lover boys in cradles warm? There’s no rethinking about it  Or is there? Till God sends an angel Then For now, shields are st...

Love, friendship and marriage… These are not just emotional phenomena or concepts, although they have their emotional properties or components. The most meaningful and beneficial part of them is their practical part. Marriage is a practical and rational decision not just an emotional and subjective one.  You don't just choose a spouse based on your momentary feelings but based on good, wise, sensible and sound judgment.  Some people are not ready or truly interested in building a mutually committed relationship. They want someone who can give them money, take care of them and help them solve their own problems while they go ahead and live their lives without any responsibility towards that person.  That’s all shades of wrong. So we must be wise.  If a person wants is your money, attention, care, time and energy yet doesn’t reciprocate any of these things, then you need to be very careful. If all a person brings to the proverbial marriage table is their looks, body or...

This is how Satan sponsors divorce. It is also how society enables or encourages failed marriages or marital breakdowns. He encourages women to divorce their husbands by rewarding them with goodwill post marriage. He celebrates and promotes them as heroines only when they have left their marriages. He sponsors and gives them fantastic opportunities to make money so much more than they could have ever dreamed was possible when they were still married. Why?  So that more women will go that route.  That’s the easy way to destroy marriages. You may think you are just supporting a woman who got divorced and helping her find her feet. But you are unaware of the monster you’re raising. Did you celebrate her when she was still married? Even when separated, did you try to explore the options of rational reconciliation? Did you honor the marriage and put any efforts in positive and constructive consultations? Or you let ego and emotions rule over you? … When the average man gets money, ...

Taking our analogy from the tree, the different types of people you will encounter in life can be described as either leaves, branches or roots. You can be described as one of these too. Let’s look at their individual characteristics. 1. THE LEAVES People who are your life just for a season.  You don’t rely on them because they are fickle.  They only come to take what they want. When the wind comes (because it surely will), they will take off, fall off or fade away. You need to be wary of these people because they act like they love you when things are going well.  They are loud about everything they do for you. But when things get a little shaky, they leave you. Like leaves, there are many of this type of people. 2. THE BRANCHES They are more reliable and useful people, but you also need to be cautious about them.  They can be helpful and productive for a period as long as they are getting huge retuns from you. However, they break away when life becomes really tough...

Erotic love can make us act silly sometimes. It can make us create in our minds an overblown image of someone who isn’t that extremely heroic, angelic or grandiose after all.  It can make us imagine certain crazy scenarios. After you have been cured of the temporal mental instability and the acute emotional illness, you will realize that the person is an ordinary human being with both good and bad (or poor) qualities. They are not really the purest of angels like that. It was your mind and emotions that blew them out of proportion. The person you love in that irrational way is even puzzled and shocked at all that your exaggerated display and idealistic disposition towards them. They may also be very uneasy with the whole thing. That person who you think is an angel knows within themselves that they have their own real flaws. They can see that you’re just tripping on infatuation because true love is not oblivious of the flaws. Infact, true love sees everything (the whole works) yet ...

I don’t think I should have a ‘favorite’ preacher.  When it comes to Scriptural Truth, we should not do personal sentiments and individual biases. I have favorite music artistes based on personal preference for their sound, style and lyrics. That’s subjective and based on my own taste. Many people have a favorite football or soccer team. We may also have favorite meals, color, cities, etc. But when it comes to my faith and walk with God, the only taste is Truth, the only text is the Written Word, the only focus is The Kingdom, and the only Personality or Ultimate Center of Attention is Christ! No human personality steals the show from Him.  Not in my heart and mind.  Not in my consciousness. Not for my sole allegiance. For I know Who exactly is LORD of all. I know God is no respecter of persons. I also understand what His Will or Truth is. Gratefully so, only by His Great Mercy and Grace. So I was somewhat puzzled or mildly disappointed at what I perceived (I may be wrong...

  What you need to know about red flags. Let’s simplify and summarize this critical concept. The term “red flag” used in the context of dating and relationships refers to a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a bad or problematic partner. Simply put, a red flag is a warning sign of unhealthy or abusive behavior in a prospective partner.  This is a very practical topic of everyday life.  … What are some examples of red flags? They include the following basic behavioral traits: * Being controlling (dictating what you should do, and criticizing your choices). * Being manipulative (lying, gaslighting, attacking your self-esteem, and playing mind games). * Substance abuse (overdosing on psychoactive substances or medication). * Physical violence (hitting, pushing or manhandling a person, and violating their physical space).  * Love bombing (showing too much affection to choke and control a person is unhealthy). All this may sound logical in writing, but recogni...