Heart of the Wise

  Making money is not dependent on if a person is good or bad, or whether they are Christian or not. Good people make money and lose money. Bad people make money and lose money. Prostitutes make money. Scammers make money. Thieves make money. Wicked men make money. Pastors make money. Good men make money. Employers make money. Employees make money. Christians make money. Muslims make money. Making money is not a function of one’s morality. It takes place through the exchange of value.  Having money doesn’t mean God loves you. Having no money doesn’t mean God dislikes you. Wealth is no sure indication that God is with you. Contrary to what many people in poor countries think, particularly those whose minds have become well-conditioned into poverty mentality, abundance or affluence is not a proof of God’s approval—no! Poverty is neither a sign of any generational curse. All that is stunted, regressive and ignorant mindset. So how is money made in the real world? Create value: tr...

  When two people love each other, they may go through challenges and tough times but they will walk through all of it together, hand in hand. They will intrinsically provide each other with mutual encouragement and morale support. That’s the power and beauty of marriage. Make sure that who you’re with is there because they love you and not because of money or sex. If the man only wants sex from you and doesn’t care about you, then he’s not your man. If the woman only wants money from you and doesn’t care about you, she isn’t your wife. Walk away immediately you discover this. Don’t build your future on a false foundation. Don’t make the humongous mistake of building your marriage on faulty footing. When both partners truly value each other and their hearts are aligned to each other, they find immense comfort and strength in each other’s presence. They find greater value and joy in the quality of the companionship than in the money, wealth, fame or affluence that may come or may no...

Simping is just one of the dating trends that exist within many others and was created primarily by Gen-Z culture.  Simping refers to when someone obsesses over someone else who does not return their affection. “Simp” is basically an internet slang describing someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention toward another person who does not reciprocate the same feelings, all in a bid to get their affection or a sexual relationship with them. “Simp” is both a noun and a verb (to “simp over” or “simp for” someone is to engage in simp behavior).  These days, the most common definition of the noun “simp” seems to be this: a man who throws money or attention at a woman in order to gain her affection, even when his tactics aren't working. There has been a growing trend in the media of certain individuals being termed as simps, generally recognized as people who engage in costly or extravagant romantic behaviors toward a romantic interest, but are often met with no reciprocation. ...

  Marrying a trusted companion is different from marrying an opportunist and user of people. A trusted companion is a person who genuinely cares about you and is also emotionally mature enough to be entrusted with sensitive matters. An opportunist and user, on the other hand, is only looking for the suitable candidate to take undue advantage of without necessarily caring about that other person’s own feelings, interests and needs. This clearly shows that an opportunist is largely self-centred and unable to cater to the deeper needs of their unlucky partner in marriage. This can be frustrating for their partners. Whether male or female, it is important to ensure that you are not only interested in marrying a person who can take care of you emotionally, financially, physically and otherwise but that you can also take care of them in similar ways or in the manner they really need. In marriage, you don’t want to be the only one sacrificing your all.  You also don’t want to be the ...

  Now this may interest you, if you’re a good thinker or someone given to honest feedback or reflection. Don’t be fooled by a person’s charm and charisma. Don’t also be fooled by your own charm, charisma, gifts, talents, skills, abilities or charismatic personality.  Be grateful for them. Be confident in them. Use or deploy them appropriately and adequately to the fullness of their purpose and power. Yet, note this cardinal fact and critical point:  The obvious presence of these qualities, though great qualities, do not necessarily indicate or imply the coexisting presence of character or virtue. The same thing with competence and intelligence. These are highly important ingredients for success. However, competence without character can lead to ultimate ruin or destruction of self or others. A smart person who is mean, untrustworthy or even secretly vindictive and sabotaging is not a great candidate or choice for true companionship. Unless you are relating sparingly with ...

  Understand what laziness really is. Laziness means the utter unwillingness to work or use one’s energies or abilities. It is different from the lack of energy or ability. Really, no one should be lazy or just idle. As long as one is in full vibrant health and vitality—mentally and physically, there’s no justification for not using one’s energies and abilities in the way that they possibly can, given their current realities. There are instances where a person’s current state of being or health may not allow them to use their abilities the way they would love to or need to. So, understand the difference between laziness and the lack of motivation, low energy or the need for rest, recuperation, proper nutrition and fitness. Next, understand what work actually is. Work is any activity involving mental or physical effort or application of energy and resources done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Men and women engage in different kinds of work to put their skills to use to ach...

Understand what laziness is. Laziness means the utter unwillingness to work or use one’s energies or abilities. It is different from the lack of energy or ability. Really, no one should be lazy. As long as one is in full vibrant health and vitality—mentally and physically, there’s no justification for not using one’s energies and abilities in the way that they possibly can, given their current realities. There are instances where a person’s current state of being or health may not allow them to use their abilities the way they would have loved to use them. So, understand the difference between laziness and the lack of motivation, low energy or the need for rest, recuperation, proper nutrition and fitness. Next, understand what work is. Work is any activity involving mental or physical effort or application of energy and resources done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Men and women engage in different kinds of work to put their skills to good use, to achieve certain personal or ...

  Think with me for a moment… Is it not rather remarkably insightful and instructive that spiritually enlightened and informed non-religious men recognized Christ as God or Divine King deserving of their heartfelt and unreserved worship even when He was a baby sleeping in a manger, a feeding tray for cattle and sheep, which was used as his makeshift baby cot. Yet renowned and leading religious leaders didn’t recognize Christ even as a full-grown adult who had spent time publicly proclaiming and teaching the salient and profound truths of the Kingdom of God, and doing the practical good works of Love in their midst. What does this clearly demonstrate to us all? What does this teach those paying attention? What should our attitude to knowing God be? Do you truly recognize the King? (Ponder on it) May we humble ourselves in the place of private prayer and study, asking and trusting God to open our hearts and the inner eyes of our understanding to deeply, richly, authentically and prog...

Men, Bros and Kings,  Respect isn’t necessarily about being bossy. Confidence is not about being carelessly loud. It is about being certain, calm and collected. It is about your carriage and comportment.  It’s about communicating clearly and articulately. If you’re quiet, you can still command respect and also influence people without saying too much.  The strongest men speak with their actions, and when they speak, they speak with meaning.  They do not blab with words just to be heard.  Own your words as well as your silence. Maintain good and healthy eye contact.  Don’t be a menace and don’t be intimidating.  Be regal, noble, loyal and courteous. Speak when it’s necessary to speak. Deploy your body language constructively. Smile, nod, use the appropriate facial expressions and use non-verbal gestures rightly to communicate what you actually mean. Do not give mixed signals. Be clear and concise in your communication. Be a great listener. Listen to und...