Heart of the Wise

  Now this may interest you, if you’re a good thinker or someone given to honest feedback or reflection. Don’t be fooled by a person’s charm and charisma. Don’t also be fooled by your own charm, charisma, gifts, talents, skills, abilities or charismatic personality.  Be grateful for them. Be confident in them. Use or deploy them appropriately and adequately to the fullness of their purpose and power. Yet, note this cardinal fact and critical point:  The obvious presence of these qualities, though great qualities, do not necessarily indicate or imply the coexisting presence of character or virtue. The same thing with competence and intelligence. These are highly important ingredients for success. However, competence without character can lead to ultimate ruin or destruction of self or others. A smart person who is mean, untrustworthy or even secretly vindictive and sabotaging is not a great candidate or choice for true companionship. Unless you are relating sparingly with ...

  Understand what laziness really is. Laziness means the utter unwillingness to work or use one’s energies or abilities. It is different from the lack of energy or ability. Really, no one should be lazy or just idle. As long as one is in full vibrant health and vitality—mentally and physically, there’s no justification for not using one’s energies and abilities in the way that they possibly can, given their current realities. There are instances where a person’s current state of being or health may not allow them to use their abilities the way they would love to or need to. So, understand the difference between laziness and the lack of motivation, low energy or the need for rest, recuperation, proper nutrition and fitness. Next, understand what work actually is. Work is any activity involving mental or physical effort or application of energy and resources done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Men and women engage in different kinds of work to put their skills to use to ach...

Understand what laziness is. Laziness means the utter unwillingness to work or use one’s energies or abilities. It is different from the lack of energy or ability. Really, no one should be lazy. As long as one is in full vibrant health and vitality—mentally and physically, there’s no justification for not using one’s energies and abilities in the way that they possibly can, given their current realities. There are instances where a person’s current state of being or health may not allow them to use their abilities the way they would have loved to use them. So, understand the difference between laziness and the lack of motivation, low energy or the need for rest, recuperation, proper nutrition and fitness. Next, understand what work is. Work is any activity involving mental or physical effort or application of energy and resources done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Men and women engage in different kinds of work to put their skills to good use, to achieve certain personal or ...

  Think with me for a moment… Is it not rather remarkably insightful and instructive that spiritually enlightened and informed non-religious men recognized Christ as God or Divine King deserving of their heartfelt and unreserved worship even when He was a baby sleeping in a manger, a feeding tray for cattle and sheep, which was used as his makeshift baby cot. Yet renowned and leading religious leaders didn’t recognize Christ even as a full-grown adult who had spent time publicly proclaiming and teaching the salient and profound truths of the Kingdom of God, and doing the practical good works of Love in their midst. What does this clearly demonstrate to us all? What does this teach those paying attention? What should our attitude to knowing God be? Do you truly recognize the King? (Ponder on it) May we humble ourselves in the place of private prayer and study, asking and trusting God to open our hearts and the inner eyes of our understanding to deeply, richly, authentically and prog...

Men, Bros and Kings,  Respect isn’t necessarily about being bossy. Confidence is not about being carelessly loud. It is about being certain, calm and collected. It is about your carriage and comportment.  It’s about communicating clearly and articulately. If you’re quiet, you can still command respect and also influence people without saying too much.  The strongest men speak with their actions, and when they speak, they speak with meaning.  They do not blab with words just to be heard.  Own your words as well as your silence. Maintain good and healthy eye contact.  Don’t be a menace and don’t be intimidating.  Be regal, noble, loyal and courteous. Speak when it’s necessary to speak. Deploy your body language constructively. Smile, nod, use the appropriate facial expressions and use non-verbal gestures rightly to communicate what you actually mean. Do not give mixed signals. Be clear and concise in your communication. Be a great listener. Listen to und...

  Growth is stepwise. It may sometimes come as quantum leaps.  But there will be the necessary stabilization and regulation of energies and environments.  The fast galloping of a powerful horse is steadied and stabilized by the complex structure of its hoof, which supports its weight, balance and mobility. A spitfire rocket blazing at a speed higher than that of sound has direction and control not just velocity.  A loose cannon is a very dangerous enterprise or entity and should never be betted on by any sane betting practitioner, at least not with high stakes.  Growth, as nature and the study of nature called science teaches us, is indeed phased or stepwise for it to be sustainable and adequately managed. This way, it can be studied, measured, monitored, improved upon and replicated in a structured way. Directionless and unmanageable systems of growth are at best experimental occurrences that more often than not lead to suboptimal outcomes or unsatisfactory and...

It’s like we are in a camp in this world.  In the context of this discussion, let us describe a camp as a place with temporary accommodation structures which is occupied by soldiers, refugees, travelers, hikers or individuals undertaking a special mission, training, or other focused and timed event. To camp is to lodge temporarily, especially in an inappropriate or uncomfortable place. Our lifetime on Earth can be likened to that of campers or wayfarers who are in transit. I recommend you read the book or see the movie titled The Pilgrim’s Progress by John Bunyan.  It’s a 1678 Christian allegory, which is regarded as one of the most significant works of Christian Faith in English literature and infact a progenitor of the narrative aspect of Christian media. Reading or watching it will provide the Believer with insight into our personal spiritual journey or walk. It will make you more aware and appreciative of the battles, pitfalls, schemes, trials and temptations that we are b...

A lady who has good intentions for a man will not seduce him. Let’s go deeper. First, a good woman who is mature enough and ready for marriage or meaningful relationship will not rely on the instrumentality of sensual, physical seduction to secure a good man’s commitment. If and when a lady decides to target a man and seduce him into having something intimate to do with her, then she is not likely thinking of marriage to him or a meaningful relationship with him. A woman readily seeks to seduces a man if she already thinks he is either an irresponsible man who is easily lured by the seductive appeal of different ladies, or is the type of man who will play the fickle game of flimsy romance or casual s€x with her. In such cases, she often times has an ulterior motive or a hidden agenda for him. It may be a setup, with a mastermind behind the scene. Let me reiterate: For a woman to seduce a man, she either thinks he is wayward and seduction is the best way to get him, or she herself is ir...

  Behold, the prisoner’s dilemma! Given just one chance to make a choice between these two options as a prisoner, assuming they represent food security and freedom respectively, which would you take: the bread or the key? The attached image shows a prisoner choosing the bread over the key, presenting a philosophical dilemma.  What are the different theoretical angles to this very practical reality of life? Below is a comprehensive overview on several theories and thought processes interpreting this illustrated scenario:   1. **Immediate vs. Long-Term Needs**:    - ** Theory **: The prisoner chose bread because hunger represents an immediate need, while the key symbolizes freedom, which addresses a long-term goal. Basic survival instincts often outweigh abstract aspirations.   2. **Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs**:    - ** Theory **: According to Maslow, physiological needs like food must be satisfied before higher needs like freedom or self-actualiza...