Heart of the Wise

Love, friendship and marriage… These are not just emotional phenomena or concepts, although they have their emotional properties or components. The most meaningful and beneficial part of them is their practical part. Marriage is a practical and rational decision not just an emotional and subjective one.  You don't just choose a spouse based on your momentary feelings but based on good, wise, sensible and sound judgment.  Some people are not ready or truly interested in building a mutually committed relationship. They want someone who can give them money, take care of them and help them solve their own problems while they go ahead and live their lives without any responsibility towards that person.  That’s all shades of wrong. So we must be wise.  If a person wants is your money, attention, care, time and energy yet doesn’t reciprocate any of these things, then you need to be very careful. If all a person brings to the proverbial marriage table is their looks, body or...

This is how Satan sponsors divorce. It is also how society enables or encourages failed marriages or marital breakdowns. He encourages women to divorce their husbands by rewarding them with goodwill post marriage. He celebrates and promotes them as heroines only when they have left their marriages. He sponsors and gives them fantastic opportunities to make money so much more than they could have ever dreamed was possible when they were still married. Why?  So that more women will go that route.  That’s the easy way to destroy marriages. You may think you are just supporting a woman who got divorced and helping her find her feet. But you are unaware of the monster you’re raising. Did you celebrate her when she was still married? Even when separated, did you try to explore the options of rational reconciliation? Did you honor the marriage and put any efforts in positive and constructive consultations? Or you let ego and emotions rule over you? … When the average man gets money, ...

Taking our analogy from the tree, the different types of people you will encounter in life can be described as either leaves, branches or roots. You can be described as one of these too. Let’s look at their individual characteristics. 1. THE LEAVES People who are your life just for a season.  You don’t rely on them because they are fickle.  They only come to take what they want. When the wind comes (because it surely will), they will take off, fall off or fade away. You need to be wary of these people because they act like they love you when things are going well.  They are loud about everything they do for you. But when things get a little shaky, they leave you. Like leaves, there are many of this type of people. 2. THE BRANCHES They are more reliable and useful people, but you also need to be cautious about them.  They can be helpful and productive for a period as long as they are getting huge retuns from you. However, they break away when life becomes really tough...

Erotic love can make us act silly sometimes. It can make us create in our minds an overblown image of someone who isn’t that extremely heroic, angelic or grandiose after all.  It can make us imagine certain crazy scenarios. After you have been cured of the temporal mental instability and the acute emotional illness, you will realize that the person is an ordinary human being with both good and bad (or poor) qualities. They are not really the purest of angels like that. It was your mind and emotions that blew them out of proportion. The person you love in that irrational way is even puzzled and shocked at all that your exaggerated display and idealistic disposition towards them. They may also be very uneasy with the whole thing. That person who you think is an angel knows within themselves that they have their own real flaws. They can see that you’re just tripping on infatuation because true love is not oblivious of the flaws. Infact, true love sees everything (the whole works) yet ...

I don’t think I should have a ‘favorite’ preacher.  When it comes to Scriptural Truth, we should not do personal sentiments and individual biases. I have favorite music artistes based on personal preference for their sound, style and lyrics. That’s subjective and based on my own taste. Many people have a favorite football or soccer team. We may also have favorite meals, color, cities, etc. But when it comes to my faith and walk with God, the only taste is Truth, the only text is the Written Word, the only focus is The Kingdom, and the only Personality or Ultimate Center of Attention is Christ! No human personality steals the show from Him.  Not in my heart and mind.  Not in my consciousness. Not for my sole allegiance. For I know Who exactly is LORD of all. I know God is no respecter of persons. I also understand what His Will or Truth is. Gratefully so, only by His Great Mercy and Grace. So I was somewhat puzzled or mildly disappointed at what I perceived (I may be wrong...

  What you need to know about red flags. Let’s simplify and summarize this critical concept. The term “red flag” used in the context of dating and relationships refers to a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a bad or problematic partner. Simply put, a red flag is a warning sign of unhealthy or abusive behavior in a prospective partner.  This is a very practical topic of everyday life.  … What are some examples of red flags? They include the following basic behavioral traits: * Being controlling (dictating what you should do, and criticizing your choices). * Being manipulative (lying, gaslighting, attacking your self-esteem, and playing mind games). * Substance abuse (overdosing on psychoactive substances or medication). * Physical violence (hitting, pushing or manhandling a person, and violating their physical space).  * Love bombing (showing too much affection to choke and control a person is unhealthy). All this may sound logical in writing, but recogni...

Men, listen up! Be careful not to make suggestive remarks and actions towards your female staff or colleagues. You lose respect whether she accepts or refuses. She will start feeling on top of the world or she will suddenly start giving you some silly attitude. She will even do or say something inappropriate or unseemly just to diss and rebuff your official orders or perhaps personal requests—something that she could never have tried doing or saying before. Infact she will do it in front of people such as other colleagues just to indirectly tell them that: “Oga dey chase me or dey knack me, so I fit play with am.” She won’t understand that you were (or are) only trying to relief pressure or satiate your urge/lust. She may also start neglecting her own duties with the display of grossly intentional oversight but will pretend that it wasn’t intended or feign tiredness. That’s why when some men have segx with women or girls who are far lower than them in social class or status, they do it...

There is a fundamental spirit in people.  There’s a guiding principle or philosophy in their minds, that propels them to take the actions and make the decisions that they eventually opt for. There is a mindset and mental stronghold in each person that informs their behaviors and actions. There is a fundamental battle for the souls of men. A battle between good and evil; light and darkness. More than a moral struggle, it is about ownership. A war for dominance and control over humans. A fight for power over ideological territories. A struggle to win and rule the mind of the world. Whichever spirit takes hold of them wins the battle. God is at work. Satan is not sleeping either. You must not be without understanding. No matter what happens on the outside or with your external world, ensure that you understand Who or What rules and runs your internal world. Many people are largely not that self-aware. Self-reflection, my friend, is your friend. Discernment is your useful ally too. Gra...

Nobody can make you fundamentally evil.  Don’t think or say that it is because of the world’s wickedness that you have now become dishonest, wicked, callous, selfish or diabolically corrupt. Except you’re weak, you won’t let the external world dictate or deform your internal world. Unless you have no inner strength of character. You are who you are, regardless. Understand your fundamental identity. You already had the innate potential of what you have ultimately turned out to be, good or evil. A cat can’t be a dog because of dogs around. The Spirit of Christ cannot suddenly become a Satanic spirit just because of Satan’s temporary reign. Now, understand that there is a fundamental difference between strategy and identity. You may change your strategy or action plan in a specific situation so as to get a desired outcome. But you can’t that easily just change your core identity. Something deeply altering or heart-converting has to occur to change your fundamental identity, which in t...

Real and satisfying success is about being true to yourself, growing as a person, and creating a life that brings you inner peace, joy and fulfillment. It’s not found in the frantic pursuit of perfection, wealth, fame, or the approval of other people.  Rather, it lies in embracing your strengths as well as your imperfections and valuing enriching experiences over material possessions. It is about creating meaningful connections and relationships, and truly following your own path of improvement and actualization. As Socrates the philosopher once noted:  “The unexamined life is not worth living.”  So take time to examine your life and your goals.  Are they essentially yours? Or are they basically generic goals that society has imposed on you? Remember, you should set your own objectives.  Don’t let anyone hijack your experience of life. To your journey towards authentic success!

Listen up, gentlemen and ladies! Don’t be fooled by a person’s charm or charisma. Don’t also be fooled by your own beauty, talents, skills, abilities or charismatic personality.  Be grateful for them. Be confident in them. Engage and leverage them appropriately to the highest extent of their purpose and usefulness. Yet, note this very important fact:  The obvious presence of these catching qualities does not necessarily or always indicate or imply the corresponding presence of character or virtue. “A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.” (The Book of Proverbs) The same thing with competence and intelligence. These are surely great ingredients for success. However, competence without character can lead to ultimate ru!n or des/truction of self or others. A smart person who is untrustworthy or secretly vindictive and sabotaging is NOT a good choice for genuine and sustainable companionship. Unless you are not relating frequently with a person...

What exactly is character? There are some misconceptions about the real meaning and implication of the concept of character. Let’s go straight to the point… Some people think character means not drinking any form of alcohol or not smoking any cigars. While this may be very good and beneficial to the health, it is really not an ethical or moral matter. People don’t understand character means not telling lies, not deceiving people, not cheating, not pretending, not scamming, and not swindling. Positively, it means qualities such as integrity, honesty, accountability, loyalty, faithfulness, truthfulness, trustworthiness, etc. Let’s take it a step further… According to Scripture, Christian character includes the pursuit of truth, godliness, righteousness, love, joy, peace, equity, gentleness, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, patience, perseverance, meekness, humility, self-control, compassion, thankfulness, forgiveness, contentment, and unity. Let’s make a distinction between character an...

Some boys take pride in sleeping with other men’s wives. They don’t go for single ladies. They go for the ones who are married. Especially young ladies married to poor men. Or sex-starved wives of busy, unavailable men. I think it gives them ego boost or power surge. That’s a really lawless and warped mentality. These boys (they’re not real men) are often the spec of most ladies: tall, dark and handsome. They use their physical charm to woo these ladies. They are also very skillful in handling women both psychologically and in erotic intimacy. They are usually the ones responsible for the DNA mismatches between couples and their children. These ones may be from wealthy backgrounds and may be students being sponsored by their fathers. Or, they may sometimes even be married men who are wealthy and well-connected but who like to use their resources to intimidate poor men by sleeping with these poor and helpless men’s wives. This is what made the Almighty God place a curse of sorts even on...

Can God give you enemies? Why did God harden Pharaoh’s heart? Or was it God who really hardened Pharaoh’s heart against His own chosen people—the Israelites? Hold on to that thought and let’s move on… Why did King Saul hate and plan to unalive David? “An evil spirit from the Lord tormented him.” Don’t get lost on the phrase “from the Lord”. An evil or wicked spirit was troubling Saul the king. Satan was disturbing him, keeping him restless and pushing him to spitefully work against a young man who had done absolutely nothing wrong to him. But again, why? (Keep asking why till you get to the real reason). Satan being a spirit being was likely keenly aware that God’s Hand was on David and that God would establish the great kingdom with him.  Yes, the Anointing or Spirit of God was on David. And, Christ would come from the same lineage! What’s more interesting? The chapter where God sent Samuel the prophet to anoint David (and where thereafter the Spirit of God came powerfully upon Da...

  The fact that God does not correct you immediately you’re wrong does NOT mean that you have grace or that you will eventually get away with it.  Not so. Not all. With all due respect, it simply means that you’re a bãstard in spirit, that is you do not have God as your illegitimate Father although you call yourself His child. It means God is your Creator but He is not your Father. He has not birth you through His Spirit in a genuine work of regeneration. You only carry a religious label of being Christian. Now, calm down and listen. Why do I say so? Simple. The Bible clearly teaches this. The Father corrects and chastises His children. That is, God rebukes and restores His sons or His beloved when they err or stray from the path of life. This is a sure way to know if you are a child of God. 1. “For the LORD corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.” 2. “For the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his ch...

Dear Daughter, A man can sleep with you just to hǔmiliate or pǔnish you.  Or just to satiate and satisfy his momentary urges. Not necessarily because loves or cares about you. A man who loves you will respect you and protect you, not handle you carelessly or inappropriately. He can play and have healthy fun with you but not merçilessly treat you like dispøsable gǎrbage.  He will not play with you to take undue advantage of your time, feelings, care, efforts, resources, etc. But you need to respect yourself and stop giving yourself to any man who doesn’t value you. And just because a man says he wants you doesn’t mean he values you; he may just want se’x. So, value your own self and stop dressing, talking, behaving and presenting yourself as a trøllop. Most men do not value women of easy virtue. Crafty men may talk all sweet and fancy to them. Yet they will only use them as slǔts and dǔmp them. The goodhearted men will even treat them well. The generous and capable may compensa...

God is not a tyřañt. He doesn’t bǔlly, intǐmidate or boss around His children into obedience or submission to His Will. All His instructions are actually given to us for our protection, although we may not know it then. They are not given to harm us or bring us pain. Even His acts of discipline, rebuke and correction are not given essentially as punitive measures but as corrective and redemptive measures to stop us from straying further away from the way of life and to bring us back to our senses and the right path. The painful chastisement we experience causes us to rethink our choices and rework our decisions. God’s rebuke is fundamentally restorative in nature. God’s favor is perpetually and unconditionally given to those He has elected or chosen to salvation. This is what makes the good news extremely good. It is an electrifying and exhilarating proclamation! The Father chastises His children when they do things that are wrong and out of character. He being Spirit communicates His ...

  The devil is like a wick’ed drǔg dealer… Who craftily plots and schemes to get people… To begin to use his product albeit most lethal… Whose agents have given info on their target… Who they’ve weighed and mapped a plan for… Who they strategically introduce to drǔg use… Most subtly, most strategically, most swiftly… Through agents who pose as target’s friends… If he succeeds in getting any hooked just once… He quickly opens serious office on their heads… And begins to supply and sell the drǔgs to them. He makes really mad money off them for real… Depletes all their resources and savings… He acts as a good and loyal product seller… Offering good service to target turned client… Who he messes up using his prolific agents… Introducing demeaning fetishized activities… Which then he goes behind client to tell people… Broadcast through agents and other channels… Which can all be linked to the demønic dealer… That the client a stewpid drǔg user or add!ct… Plus other false narratives with...

  99% of people are not self-aware.  It’s not a job for the mentally lethargic. It’s not something the insincere can do. It takes courage and total honesty and a healthy self image to evaluate yourself and face the facts. Many are running awsy from themselves only after seeing a glimpse of the demons within them. Many are hiding from themselves and distracting themselves from knowing themselves. Many are avoiding themselves in different ways. Only the mentally strong can look themselves in the mirror and accept the full picture: good and bad. Only the those with inner strength can admit to the dark sides of their hearts and minds.  Only those with integrity can admit to the down sides of their character. Only those with humility can graciously handle the glories of their destiny with levelheaded sobriety. Without emotional strength and stability, people easily fall into deep depression, or into excessive pride or conceit—the opposite extremes of facing either their shortc...

Instead of saying: The world is wick’ed. People should rather and more accurately say:  We are wick’ed. Yes, we! The world is not full of a!iens who fell from the sky.  No, it is full of humans like you and I who let our dark sides take the better part of us sometimes.  That’s accountability. It’s human beings that wear provøcative clothes to sed’uce and lu’re people to s!n. It’s human beings who sleep with people’s spouses.   It’s human beings that ste’al people’s money. It’s human beings who ha’ck people’s accounts. It is humans who l!e, cheat and man!pulate others for their own selfish interests and ev!l agenda. It’s human beings that make certain policies or decisions that impøverish or vict!mize the pøor. It is humans who ravish their own countries in such a way that the lives of children are wre’cked. It is humans that enslave, inflame, disempower and destabilize other countries to gain domination. It is humans stifling, grounding or destroying other people’s b...