Heart of the Wise

Forgiveness does not mean re-committing to wrong or unwholesome relationships.  It simply means not holding anything against them for what they have done, not accusing them of it anymore because you have written it off as a bad debt, not requiring them to repay or apologize and not nursing any need for vengeance at all.  People may recommit and reunite physically yet hold some animosity, anger, pain, bitterness or grudge within their hearts, which could  erupt later and lead to more collateral damage and social disaster in unimaginable proportions.  Forgiveness must take place in the heart. Once you have truly forgiven, you will sense peace and love in your heart towards the person you have forgiven. However, it doesn't in anyway mean the other party has changed, been reformed or turned a new leaf. Matter of fact, they may still be the very same way or even worse. Thus, wisdom must help you protect yourself from further harm from them. It's in you...

A young lady should marry a man she admires, respects and can easily submit to. It's not every man she can respect in this way. For a woman, she shouldn't just marry a man she likes or loves but one who she respects and won't find it hard listening to and deferring to, gladly, genuinely and from her heart. Conversely, a man should marry a lady he truly cares about, cherishes, adores, loves, is attracted to and has a heart to nurture,  give to, sacrifice for, take care of, protect and provide for. Don't compromise these fundamental requirements. Don't settle for less. Don't be pressured into a sub-optimal union or unwholesome yoke. Be true to yourself, and don't deceive anyone. Getting married is not an achievement. Having kids is not amassing trophies. Marriage is a functional covenant that requires wholehearted commitment as well as sound and honest evaluation. You don't enter into covenant with just anyone or under duress because so...

There is a lot of commercialization in religious circles. But religion is not commerce. God is not for sale. The Gospel is not big business.  When the focus and preoccupation of religion largely drifts to money making and business building, apostasy has set in and the enemy is on overtime.  Beware of false religion. True religion is to know, fear and love God and to love, bless and serve humanity. Know God for yourself. Fear God, walk justly, love mercy and depart from evil. Love the Lord with all your heart, soul and strength. Love your neighbor as yourself. You can't do it by your self will or in the life of the flesh, so get to know Jesus the only Savior of the world and the only Hope of humanity. He is the only truth, the true life and the only way to God the Father for all of mankind. Completely open your heart to Him and receive His life, love and essence on a personal level. Be conditioned and regulated by the Spirit of God and live a rich spiritual life in ...

Any marriage contracted without sincerity of purpose for lifelong companionship and benevolent service to the spouse of one’s choosing is fraud .  Without honest love, mutual support and true friendship, the marital union may easily be reduced to a roguish fraternal contraption forged by the grimy hands of ulterior or selfish motive, manipulation and make-believe upon the faulty foundation of falsehood and deception.  To scam is to defraud, deceive or cheat.  When a person cheats to get married, by pretending before marriage, they have built their marriage upon a foundation of cheating, lies and deceit.  Little wonder there is lack of honesty, lots of lies and a cycle of cheating perpetuated in the span of such unhealthily contracted marriages.  Get real. Be honest, truthful and sincere. If you are already grappling at the center of the mix, get help to fix the problem.  It's very important to make the time necessary to do due diligence in building proper ...

When you decide to marry a person, what you’re saying to them in effect is this: “I will love you and be with you whether I feel like it or not, whether you hurt me or please me, whether you have money or you don’t, whether you fail in life or succeed. It's not your condition, position or possession I'm marrying, but it’s you – the real you that I have come to know, love, value, esteem, treasure, cherish, honor and appreciate. I give you my lifelong loyalty. You can always count on me.” Vice versa. People must understand the exclusive oath they're taking when they say "I do" before they say it. People must be taught to understand what they are actually “doing”. Whoever joins people shabbily or hastily does them injustice, dishonors the revered office of priest, notary or other officiant and desecrates the holy institution of marriage. Whoever tricks or deceives another into marrying him or her, violates that one and themselves. It shows a severe lack of unders...

Marital unfaithfulness is not limited to sleeping with a person that one is not married to; it also includes not sleeping  with the person that one is married to. In other words, denying one's spouse sex is as grievous and evil in God's sight as having sex with a non-spouse. Both sins must be repented of or will receive God's judgment. Sex denial, like spousal divorce, is a breach of the marriage covenant, a disregard for the sacredness of the nuptial bond and a trigger for sexual immorality. The Bible calls it fraud, which means, swindling, criminal deception and cheating. Sex denial in marriage is cheating, as is extramarital sex. Sex denial in marriage is a sophisticated and subtle form of sexual immorality. Immorality means wickedness or the state of being immoral, that is, of not conforming to the standards of morality. Sex denial is the other face of the marital unfaithfulness; the other and well-known face being extramarital sex. Every genuine Christi...

We've brought in frivolous and superfluous activities into the church including cultural ceremonies and social programs that range from fanfares, bazaars, shows, concerts, commercial activities, show business and entertainment razzmatazz, all termed "seeker friendly" and masterfully designed to magnetize and mesmerize a mammoth crowd and obviously raise the revenue while we're at our religious stunts.  Our hopes are that comers to our centers will be 'wo w-ed' and impressed enough to echo, even in a hushed whisper or mental voice note, what our billboards so loudly proclaim:  "This is church, mehn!"  with the decision to become repeat customers.  We no longer spend enough time in heartfelt prayer, intense worship in complete abandon in God's Presence and the ministry of the Word.  We're no longer teaching Biblical truth and challenging unverified religious notions until believers are well rooted in the pure and unfailing Word of God. Thus we...