Heart of the Wise

  What you need to know about red flags. Let’s simplify and summarize this critical concept. The term “red flag” used in the context of dating and relationships refers to a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a bad or problematic partner. Simply put, a red flag is a warning sign of unhealthy or abusive behavior in a prospective partner.  This is a very practical topic of everyday life.  … What are some examples of red flags? They include the following basic behavioral traits: * Being controlling (dictating what you should do, and criticizing your choices). * Being manipulative (lying, gaslighting, attacking your self-esteem, and playing mind games). * Substance abuse (overdosing on psychoactive substances or medication). * Physical violence (hitting, pushing or manhandling a person, and violating their physical space).  * Love bombing (showing too much affection to choke and control a person is unhealthy). All this may sound logical in writing, but recogni...

Men, listen up! Be careful not to make suggestive remarks and actions towards your female staff or colleagues. You lose respect whether she accepts or refuses. She will start feeling on top of the world or she will suddenly start giving you some silly attitude. She will even do or say something inappropriate or unseemly just to diss and rebuff your official orders or perhaps personal requests—something that she could never have tried doing or saying before. Infact she will do it in front of people such as other colleagues just to indirectly tell them that: “Oga dey chase me or dey knack me, so I fit play with am.” She won’t understand that you were (or are) only trying to relief pressure or satiate your urge/lust. She may also start neglecting her own duties with the display of grossly intentional oversight but will pretend that it wasn’t intended or feign tiredness. That’s why when some men have segx with women or girls who are far lower than them in social class or status, they do it...

There is a fundamental spirit in people.  There’s a guiding principle or philosophy in their minds, that propels them to take the actions and make the decisions that they eventually opt for. There is a mindset and mental stronghold in each person that informs their behaviors and actions. There is a fundamental battle for the souls of men. A battle between good and evil; light and darkness. More than a moral struggle, it is about ownership. A war for dominance and control over humans. A fight for power over ideological territories. A struggle to win and rule the mind of the world. Whichever spirit takes hold of them wins the battle. God is at work. Satan is not sleeping either. You must not be without understanding. No matter what happens on the outside or with your external world, ensure that you understand Who or What rules and runs your internal world. Many people are largely not that self-aware. Self-reflection, my friend, is your friend. Discernment is your useful ally too. Gra...

Nobody can make you fundamentally evil.  Don’t think or say that it is because of the world’s wickedness that you have now become dishonest, wicked, callous, selfish or diabolically corrupt. Except you’re weak, you won’t let the external world dictate or deform your internal world. Unless you have no inner strength of character. You are who you are, regardless. Understand your fundamental identity. You already had the innate potential of what you have ultimately turned out to be, good or evil. A cat can’t be a dog because of dogs around. The Spirit of Christ cannot suddenly become a Satanic spirit just because of Satan’s temporary reign. Now, understand that there is a fundamental difference between strategy and identity. You may change your strategy or action plan in a specific situation so as to get a desired outcome. But you can’t that easily just change your core identity. Something deeply altering or heart-converting has to occur to change your fundamental identity, which in t...

Real and satisfying success is about being true to yourself, growing as a person, and creating a life that brings you inner peace, joy and fulfillment. It’s not found in the frantic pursuit of perfection, wealth, fame, or the approval of other people.  Rather, it lies in embracing your strengths as well as your imperfections and valuing enriching experiences over material possessions. It is about creating meaningful connections and relationships, and truly following your own path of improvement and actualization. As Socrates the philosopher once noted:  “The unexamined life is not worth living.”  So take time to examine your life and your goals.  Are they essentially yours? Or are they basically generic goals that society has imposed on you? Remember, you should set your own objectives.  Don’t let anyone hijack your experience of life. To your journey towards authentic success!

Listen up, gentlemen and ladies! Don’t be fooled by a person’s charm or charisma. Don’t also be fooled by your own beauty, talents, skills, abilities or charismatic personality.  Be grateful for them. Be confident in them. Engage and leverage them appropriately to the highest extent of their purpose and usefulness. Yet, note this very important fact:  The obvious presence of these catching qualities does not necessarily or always indicate or imply the corresponding presence of character or virtue. “A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.” (The Book of Proverbs) The same thing with competence and intelligence. These are surely great ingredients for success. However, competence without character can lead to ultimate ru!n or des/truction of self or others. A smart person who is untrustworthy or secretly vindictive and sabotaging is NOT a good choice for genuine and sustainable companionship. Unless you are not relating frequently with a person...