Heart of the Wise

God knows our human frailties. He only requires that we be just and treat others as we would not mind being treated. In other words, treat others fairly and justly as you would treat yourself or like to be treated also. “Love your neighbor as yourself.” That’s the greatest commandment of God. No need to go offering great sacrifices or doing fancy and lofty religious ceremonies when we have not obeyed the basic laws and principles. It is attempting to solve very complex scientific or mathematical equations without even knowing or understanding the first principles. So again, God knows our basic human framework. He understands the basic human need for nutrition, locomotion, exertion, restoration and copulation. These are the things He designed for the continuity of His natural creation, namely, creatures of Nature. Following the Fall of Man, post Creation Glory, Man has had to deal with the practical and ideological implications of his fallen human nature or state, in the order or image ...

In the context of polygamy, there are many wives. There are older and newer wives in that scenario. The older wives have a tendency to form a woolly or abstract union or comradeship whenever a new, hot and sizzling wife shows up on the scene. Like someone is coming to take preeminence where they have already labored and gained ground.  Just as in a monogamous space, where the partner would be concerned and jealous if the object of their love and affection is being pursued by or is pursuing another albeit in a temporary romance. It is natural for an existing wife to experience the feelings of apprehension, anxiety or jealousy when a new love interest enters the life of her man. Even if there was a shared understanding and agreement between the husband and existing wife on the type of family they would be building.  But this can be positively curtailed and managed with the assurance and security of a marital union, which may either be the traditional (customary), common-law (de ...

Listen and learn from everyone be it friend or foe.  But don’t listen much to people who don’t like you.  They will always see and say something wrong and discouraging or discrediting about whatever you’re doing and especially when you’re evolving or going through certain sensitive phases or transitions. Don’t worry about them—they will deeply regret it. The Almighty Creator will fix all things accordingly. But change your own focus to what is good. Listen more to those who truly believe in you. They can see your value or potential. They are gracious enough to give room for your lapses, gaps, shortcoming, blunders or excesses. They acknowledge your gifts and strengths.  They celebrate you genuinely without motive. They correct you helpfully—to help you improve.  They accommodate your learning process/phase. They allow you to be yourself without pretending. They extend grace and goodwill. They like you authentically, fame or no fame. Money or no money. Mistakes and al...

Do you offer your advice to genuinely help the people who you advise? Here’s a rule of thumb when giving advice: When you advise people, do you best to explain or give cogent reasons for your counsel and opinion, especially if it’s not a clear scriptural instruction. Don’t indirectly insult the intelligence of everyone listening to you.  Don’t abuse your place of authority or privileged position in their lives. Don’t try to control and manipulate them for no good reason or real benefit to them. Explain to them how it best serves their interest. For example, don’t say: “All you 40+ men, why are you going for 20+ ladies? Who are you leaving the 30+ and 40+ for? Go for those: let there balance.” Is that what marriage is about?  Who are they leaving the older ones for? You call that seeking balance? Okay then, let’s seek economic balance, sir. Yes, let’s advise your rich kids to kindly marry poor spouses so we can achieve balance in money matters and in the economic situation of o...

God cannot be mocked.  Stop playing games with Him. Stop playing games with the lives of people. Stop taking undue advantage of others and wrecking whole lives and communities for your selfish interests. Stop it!  This is a divine call. You heard it. Will you ignore? Then so shall you be ignored by God when you call. Leadership is a sacred trust. So is marriage. So is parenting. So is friendship. So is life. Financial prosperity is a blessing but not always so. Long life is a blessing but not absolutely so. Ask Jesus. Do your assignment, no matter how small. Even if it is making a post, writing or saying something. (Ours is a digitalized and digitized destiny) Even if they don’t remember your name, like Thaddaeus. (He was one of the Twelve Apostles, by the way). So long life and prosperity are not the exclusive preserve of the good or the just—the wīcked and unjust also enjoy the selfsame privileges. No jokes. Now listen to this carefully:  Long life is not necessarily a ...

  Dear Celebrity, Being in the spotlight can eventually take its toll on one’s mental health—I empathize deeply with you. Be encouraged to maintain your centre of gravity.  In other words, stay grounded, stay centered and stay connected to your essence and inner mojo. Now just a little word of caution for those of you who have let fame and fortune get the better of you. Fame is illusion. Money is intoxication. Listen, just because you have people’s attention and admiration doesn’t necessarily mean you are better than them or should take them for granted, regardless of the fact that you’re now very rich and somewhat influential in your field or sphere of life. People pause and take out time to listen to you and to appreciate your work.  A lot of people celebrate your talent. Plus, you are immensely rewarded for it.  The hype and fan excitement can be overwhelming. But don’t be deluded into thinking you’re special. You’re freaking human like the rest of us. Don’t let a...