WHY SEDUCTION?

A lady who has good intentions for a man will not seduce him.

Let’s go deeper.

First, a good woman who is mature enough and ready for marriage or meaningful relationship will not rely on the instrumentality of sensual, physical seduction to secure a good man’s commitment.

If and when a lady decides to target a man and seduce him into having something intimate to do with her, then she is not likely thinking of marriage to him or a meaningful relationship with him.

A woman readily seeks to seduces a man if she already thinks he is either an irresponsible man who is easily lured by the seductive appeal of different ladies, or is the type of man who will play the fickle game of flimsy romance or casual s€x with her.

In such cases, she often times has an ulterior motive or a hidden agenda for him. It may be a setup, with a mastermind behind the scene.

Let me reiterate:

For a woman to seduce a man, she either thinks he is wayward and seduction is the best way to get him, or she herself is irresponsible or immature and she thinks seduction is the best way to get men, or she is on an unscrupulous mission and has plans to either destr0y him or to get something from him.

Next, a good woman who wants a good man to settle down with her will not seduce that man with her body, as though it’s the sole thing she can offer.

She would rather communicate, in practical and modest ways, the value of a wife or partner to him.

Now, if she sees him as a potential husband and sees herself as a potential wife, then her creative juices will flow causing her to add meaningful value to his life in many possible non-suggestive ways.

Deploying seduction or sexual allure on a man that you’re not married to is a very base approach and may be a statement or sign of a low-value woman, in the mind or eyes of a high-value, mature man.

It reeks of short-lived sparks of titillation.

There’s a level of sensitive sexuality which often leads to sexual intimacy that should be unpacked, explored and enjoyed in the exclusivity of marriage.

What is a good man thinking all this time?

Can and will she be a good wife to me and a good mother to our children?

Is she just free-to-air service for gaming dudes?

A good man’s wife is his pride: a capable and virtuous woman who brings him immense value.

A man who seeks a wife is thinking deeper stuff.

A man who is considering a woman for marriage has already considered her level of attractiveness to him and if he’d want her in an intimate way.

The heart and mind first connect before the body.

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On a flip side, wayward girl who seduces wayward man and gets him to marry her should not expect him to become super-responsible over night.

For example, he met you in a night club while you were hanging out with other guys and he was with other girls. Compromised environment. Crazy buzz. Uncontrolled behavior. Free form. Et cetera.

Then all of a sudden, without deeper connection, progressive communication, mutual understanding, or defined relationship, you expect him to become faithful to you—as what, the queen of the coast?

Just that you now want him all to yourself, so you think the other girls are daft, or you are better to him than them, but even worse still, you are still having other men in the background—codedly.

That’s totally selfish, delusional and unrealistic.

If we must travel well, we must make travel plans.

Cut out the crap and put in the real work needed.

Best wishes.