HOW TO BE IN CHARGE OF YOURSELF

Below are some KEY parameters that show a person is actually IN CHARGE of themselves. 

You're NOT in PSYCHOLOGICAL (MENTAL and EMOTIONAL) BONDAGE to money, sex, religion, friends, family, fans, fame, fashion, fantasy, food, drinks (whether it's alcoholic or non alcoholic), drugs, or any other material thing. You're FREE.

You take RESPONSIBILITY for your thoughts, words and actions. You don't have the TOXIC HABIT of always PLAYING the BLAME GAME, that is blaming people or things for problems. 

You are proactive with learning and prioritize your personal growth and self development. 

You're living your life on your own terms and NOT with the obsession of pleasing people. 

You make your own decisions based on logic and researched or relevant information, NOT based on TEMPORARY feelings or emotions. 

You're emotionally secure enough to be your TRUE self and allow others to be themselves. 

You're aware of both your strengths and your weaknesses, and you manage BOTH skillfully. 

You are NOT DELUDED or INFLATED with pride or ego because of your good looks, gifts, skills, social standing, success, popularity, et cetera.

You are NOT TIMID, insecure and lacking in confidence. You're sound or sober MINDED. 

You're not in competition with people but your own potential. You're genuinely happy for the progress and achievements that others have. 

You have learnt to move on from the negative past and to work on building a BETTER future. 

You are NOT pretentious and afraid TO MAKE mistakes. You OWN your imperfections while growing or evolving to be a GREATER person. 

You have overcome the fear of rejection and "what people will say". You're truly authentic. 

You admit and apologize for your wrong acts.

You appreciate and acknowledge the good in other people irrespective of their differences.

You RESPECT the CHOICES of other people. 

You are courageous enough to seek out and stand up for truth, justice, equity and fairness. 

You don't WAIT for people to act BEFORE you follow. You're self assured or sure of yourself.

You do NOT succumb to undue peer pressure. 

You're humble enough to admit ignorance or incompetence. You ask questions to LEARN. 

You CARE about people in a wholesome and nontoxic manner. You MIND YOUR BUSINESS, BUT offer sincere support when it is needed.

You set and respect HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. You're not a mouthy busybody or nosyparker. 

You engage people and address issues with assertiveness but NOT with aggressiveness. 

You don't lose sleep OVER negative feedback, BUT you objectively evaluate your own action.

You forgive and hold no grudges or ill feeling.

You listen to other people: to understand what they are essentially communicating in context.

You can THINK for yourself without depending on external validation; falling for manipulation. 

You're an INDEPENDENT individual and at the same time an INTERDEPENDENT team player, who can WORK effectively and amicably with people of divers cultures or different skillset. 

You CHOOSE your own PATH in life WITHOUT playing to the gallery OR living a falsified life.

You're NOT afraid to lose whatever or whoever becomes unwholesome or counterproductive. 

You FOCUS on and are preoccupied with YOUR intelligent GOALS and productive life. You SEEK to solve problems for yourself and community. 

You have INNER PEACE and happiness, even when you and your goals are work in progress.

You are a reliable and trustworthy #HUMAN.